Skyline_BNR34 wrote:
It's interesting how people can hold onto their life just long enough to see something happen to their children or grandchildren.
Oh, yeah, that happens all the time. The cousin that's getting married is on my mother's side, but my grandmother there isn't doing too well, either, and hasn't ever since, again,
her husband died just about five years ago. I would not be surprised if she dies within a month after my cousin's wedding, but I don't think that she will because she's been the same for so long now and is always surprising everyone haha. She's a strong woman. I think she's currently... Oh, 84? Something like that. My mother is the youngest of six.
Conversely, my grandfather that died when I was eleven did so five months before my youngest brother was born, but he died of lung cancer due to smoking and was in a coma for about a week before he finally left, so I don't think his will mattered much in that circumstance... I watched his decline because I was staying at the same house where he and my grandmother were and where he died, his sister's house, for much of the winter leading up to his death, and I'd only been home for about a month when he went into a coma and we went back goodbye. I was there when he died... In retrospect I am not sure why I was allowed to stay with them for so long. I know that I wanted to because he was my favorite grandparent and I knew that he was dying, but it's still weird to me that my parents allowed it. I don't think most would... But, yeah, I was homeschooled, so it wasn't that big of a deal I guess. I still got school done.
It's sad with my other grandmother, though... She is only seventy, but she is as incapacitated as most ninety-year-olds are, according to what my cousin told me. She does have some health problems, but they are manageable with medication, and I'm certain that it was my grandfather's death and her smoking for decades and decades that have done her in. She just recently stopped smoking in the past few months because the home she got moved to doesn't allow it, and I'm sure if she were ever moved to one that does she would start up again. I think the only reason she's lasted so long after his death is that she was pretty young when it happened (he was only 58). I work at a home, and when residents lose a spouse, I typically give them a year tops. They go from being lucid and completely aware and still happy in life to being completely lost and developing dementia and kind of just going crazy. When it gets to that point, it's never long.
OK, enough being morbid for today.
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Their personalities are too different to ever get along. It was nice, though, knowing that I'm not the only child in the family to find the entire thing hilarious. My cousin says he eavesdrops on conversations and secretly laughs every time one happens. They act like they're in middle school, and they're... ummm... 39, 43, and 50, I believe. The only thing two of them agree on is that my two uncles want to keep some property we have in the family and my father wants to sell it, and every once in a while they'll try to talk him into selling his part to them and he refuses to hear it because he just wants nothing to do with the land or having it in the family period and oh man those discussions get hilarious. One of these days I'm just going to be like, "You guys are brothers, and you're not twelve, either." I don't think they understand how purely entertaining they are. They're cordial at holidays, though, which is good because that's the only time I ever see my cousins anymore after spending almost every day with my older uncle's kids, at least the ones that are currently older than 12, 11, and 7. 
