CriminallyVu1gar wrote:
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As far as feelings go, it's strange, I have a lot of those, but I also have this really, really old person inside my head, watching them, smiling and saying: "That's nice, dear" She makes it hard to take feelings too seriously. She also makes me feel somewhat grandmotherly towards most people, which makes it incredibly hard to find a guy I could have an actual relationship with - it should be someone I can't feel so much older then - so far I have met only a few people like this. Other then them, I usually just look at what people do and think: "That's nice, dear"
Hint: NEVER EVER actually say, "That's nice," out loud after a friend that is a girl emotionally vents to you.
I've always said I'm older than everyone my age, and that's what I've meant. On man aahhhh.
Right, I prefer pointing out to the girl why they're being ridiculous, illogical, and overly dramatic.
I try to do that sometimes in a, uh, nice way, I guess. All I can think when doing so is, "Tomorrow you won't even care. What is this. Get some perspective. Has life taught you nothing," etc. It's hard lol. I don't mind when girls have personalities that, um... preclude calmness, I guess. I mean, be who you are, whatever, just don't expect me to follow what you want if you
ever guilt trip or attempt to emotionally manipulate me; I might to do it just to keep the peace, but I can't respect you anymore after that. I
do mind when that causes them to treat those around them like crap, and that is what always ends up happening. It's like calm down; you're not the only person in the room. Be illogical, overly emotional, don't have perspective, I don't care; it doesn't affect me any. Just don't treat people you love and respect like crap, because that does. I hate how it causes them to lose perspective... so much... Treat everyone around you as lower than you because you're having a bad day? Um, yeah. No. Other people go through things, too, some of them much more serious than what you are, but you would never know because they realize they're not the only ones. Gain some perspective. Please.
That said, guilt tripping is THE WORST, and I would say 90% of the girls I have ever known did it all the time to get what they want. Not to say guys don't do it, because they do and I have witnessed it, but it's not as widespread in that sex haha. It puts the person doing the guilt tripping on some moral pedestal for no reason at all. They absolve themselves of all guilt/blame and completely villainize the other person, usually entirely undeservedly. It also takes advantage of some of the nicest people. Accept your own mistakes... I hate guilt tripping so much. Sometimes I am afraid to accept stupid little things because I know they will just be used as future ammunition. Genuine kindness doesn't expect things in return like that. I can't stand when people are "sweet," not kind. So often I hear guys say they want a certain kind of girl, and the girl they describe is the kind that guilt trips and emotionally manipulates like there is no tomorrow lol, and then they complain when they get a girl like that and she starts doing it, and eventually it leads to a break up. Well, what did you expect. Personality traits tend to coincide.
Oooookaaaaay then. That got long. I'm currently stuck with my mother's side of the family all the time without any form of escape.
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