Sabresfansince1980 wrote:
I would even take the opposite approach. Instead of trying to get this mom to parent properly, tell her you are going to discipline her kid as necessary while under your roof. She'll freak at the first site of you yelling at her, sending her to a corner, or even (yes I dare suggest) spanking her. Then she'll have to take the lead with her kid out of fear that you'll "damage her ego" or some BS. She'll stop comong over...problem solved.
I spanked my daughter around 5-7 times between age 2 1/2 - 5, and made it HURT (some parents are pansies about that too). But since age 4 - 4 1/2, maybe only once, I can't remember. Now she's a genuine pleasure to have as a daughter, with only a stern word necessary to correct a bad moment. Point being that when you parent strictly early on, you save yourself a lot of aggravation down the road. This woman needs to realize that her kid is actually learning how to be a bitch right under her nose, because "she's only two". Waahhhhh...kids need to be disciplined and understand why right from the start.
If you take the time to explain, not just what they did wrong, but why you discipline them, why little Johnny shit head is such an ass at pre-school (because his mom is a wuss), the kid actually appreciates and takes pride in being good (better than "those bad kids"). There's a lot of things, as a nearly complete grumpy old person, that I hate, but near the top is cranky toddlers throwing tantrums in public while mom or dad laugh at how "silly" their little mongrel is. I want to smack the parent more than the kid.
Amen. I already told her I'd be stepping in with discipline if she sat there on her ass while her daughters were being brats. She's been warned. I told her flat out that if she didn't start introducing limits on these little shits now she'd wake up in five years, try to set rules and find herself in a living hell. I started early with mine, making them clean up after themselves, explaining that running into the living room and just starting to talk without saying excuse me first was bad, please and thank yous, and of course I paddled their butts when they needed it. I actually made a paddle which I used once when I first made it (to scare them) and since I just pick it up and they instantly stop being idiots. Now i just kind of thump it on the end of the bunk bed and they straighten up quick.
They are still bad from time to time but it is a thousand times more bearable than if I had let them free range.
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