Skyline_BNR34 wrote:
But still, you shouldn't feel bad, of course it's tough but she's in a better place right now and that is what should have been on their minds, about how great of a life she is going to have now.
That's how I think when someone dies, I believe there is something after life, you may not, but when someone dies from a suicide, her life must have been pretty shitty on Earth for her to do that. Now she's in no pain from anything anymore.
And Powerplayer, life still moves on from everything, the people who let everything build up and never see the good in anything are the ones who are nothing and won't ever be anything in life anymore.
You don't mourn over her death, you celebrate the life she lived. Don't like my ways of thinking about death, don't try and change them or talk to me about them, because that's how it is. Celebrate the life, not be sad in the death.
Have you ever heard of something called a mourning period? When someone close to your, or close to someone you know dies, you don't just jump back on the horse and think that everything is just fine and dandy. It's an open wound that you can't just magically pretend isn't there. You make a good point that they should celebrate the life she lived, but I imagine most people (clearly you must be an exception) would have a hard time doing that before they properly mourned the death of that person. Getting past the death of a person is a process, so don't shit on people for having a difficult time getting through that process.
Not to mention, given this was a death from suicide, I imagine it's a lot harder to deal with. Hell, when I was 10 years old, my brothers friend committed suicide. I didn't know the girl all that well, but I had talked to her a few times and I knew she was really nice. When I found out she committed suicide, it was really tough. I remember being really upset for a while. At that age, I couldn't even quite understand the concept, but knowing someone had purposefully ended their life is a tough thing to process, regardless of how well you may know the person. I understand you're trying to make a point that people need to move on or else they'll be trapped in a world of pain or whatever. However, you don't just move on RIGHT AFTER THE MEMORIAL SERVICE. So, please, get off your high horse and realize that hockey NEVER comes first in this kind of situation.