http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/artic ... ajors.html

Lots of graphs so I'll only link it. No bad pics, but parts of the article talk about sex.

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Secret online dating tips revealed by Harvard math majors

I stopped reading after that.



jk

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Hockey Night in Buffalo

Never tried online dating and am not really interested in that scene at all right now. I might never be ahaha. I did have an account with OKC the summer of 2009. I talked with a few people on there on a regular basis throughout the summer. After I went back to school I forgot I still had an account until I got some email stating that because I was rated in the top third in physical attractiveness my top matches would also be from the most attractive bunch, aaaaand then I promptly deleted my account. I wonder what other things like that OKC does for those who join.

Anyway. If i ever do desire to settle down (not likely to be honest, though I do want a couple children) I will probably use online crap because the dating scene repulses me. I do believe I give off that vibe in person because I've never been asked out on a date. lol

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‎"Love knows not its own depth until the hour of separation."
-Khalil Gibran

Online dating has always been easy for me. Every time I schedule a date on Craig's List the girl is there and on time. It's a rotten shame I have to arrest her though.

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I've met a couple of girls online. One resulted in a single date, the other in a 6-month relationship. The relationship was the last one before meeting my wife, and it would never have happened if I didn't mention i liked hockey in my message to her (a little hope for all you single hockey fans out there). It can certainly work, and I think online dating can be a good thing in this era where you can get to know so much about a person from internet experiences.

One of my favorite things to do is look through the personal ads on Craigslist and compare the guys' ads to the girls' ads. Guys' posts will be like 3 sentences long, and girls will often write small novellas for theirs.

No interest in it whatsoever. Even though I'm on the market again, I'm not shopping around if you know what I mean. If I meet someone that I click with, then cool. If I don't, then I don't.

Maybe my attitude will be different as I get farther away from recent events, but that's where I'm at.

I think it's especially useful for people that might be a little bit past their prime dating age (I'm thinking about late 20's to 30's and up). If you're in school, then usually it's relatively easy to meet new people and you have something in common that's a built-in conversation topic: school. Once you get older, you tend to become more entrenched in your routines, and that can mean meeting fewer new people. Also, at least in my case, I stopped going out as much to concerts and bars and things like that. Online dating helps you find new people, and it lets you cut to the chase of what you want out of the potential dates you meet.

That makes sense. I'm only 33, so I'm not too old a fart yet. I've actually spend a good deal of time over the last couple weeks reconnecting with a lot of friends that I didn't do much with over the last couple years, and meeting a lot of new people just out of that. That's been kinda nice.

Probably a group of people I'll avoid when I feel like chasing random meaningless rebound sex though, don't want to cause any friend drama.

It's good for introverts as well. Personally, most of the people I would meet out doing something would not be the type of people I would want to date because I don't really like going out.

The downside of it is that you can disqualify someone easily based on what's in their profile even though it might be a relatively minor part of themselves that they felt like including on that particular day.

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Agreed. I'm not the most outgoing person in the world so it worked well for me to get to know someone online vs. trying to talk myself up at a party or a bar. To be honest, I could have benefited from starting online dating sooner. But then I might have stayed with one of the girls I met online and never have gotten together with my wonderful wife.

I tried it in the early 2000's. Went out on a few dates and eventually met my wife via match.com.

I'm not one that goes out to drink beers at bars and I work for a company where almost everyone is married or in their 50's/60's.

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****DISCLAIMER-I know this is probably going to sound bitter and like a rant against men, but honestly it's not. Believe it or not, I do like men and am hetero. This has just been my experience. Some have been more successful than I at online dating. Or I guess just dating, period.*******

I signed up on POF - which appears to be more of a "fuck site". I can't believe some of the stuff people send/say. I don't really want a "dick pic". I'll get to see it if we get horizontal. That is just one of the more "memorable" experiences.

I met a few people who had potential, then *poof*, the original individual I met morphs into someone completely different.

I had a horrible "coffee date" with a guy who swooped in to kiss me after walking me to my car. Fortunately, I was quicker than he was and he only got my cheek. I never messaged him, gave him my phone number, nothing. Pretty much means "not interested". Right? Not so much. About two and a half weeks later, I get an email from him apologizing to me for not getting back to me sooner, but he felt that there was "no chemistry". REALLY? He ends the email with "if you don't agree, write back and let me know". WTF? Idiot.

The next one had a problem with a particular attribute of mine and berated me for it.
/enddate

I dated one for a couple of months only to find him still on the website, talking to other women - a fatal flaw when you're dating - ok, SLEEPING with - someone. There's a lot more to this than what I've posted here, but this was a factor right from the start because I never felt like I could trust him. Once we'd established mutual exclusivity, the understanding was that profiles would be at least hidden, and then if things progressed, eventually deleted. I stayed in it longer than I should have because I listened to what he said rather than what he did. I deleted my profile after that. I'll take my chances at 49 and meet someone IRL rather than do that again.

I met another one and went out a few times with him after exchanging emails and text messages. He always said how much he enjoyed talking with me..blah, blah, blah. So we make another date to have dinner at his house and cook. I get a text message from him on Saturday saying his "mother had to go to the hospital" and he'd get back to me. It seemed pretty obvious he'd changed his mind for whatever reason, (given the fact we talked via text/email so often, then..nothing) so I made plans to do something else. He did text late the next afternoon and apologized for not getting back to me, but I had no intention of responding to it or seeing him again. He has never emailed/sent a text since. I mean, come on? You can't get more original or, GASP - be honest and tell me you changed your mind, or you met someone else? We are not kids. At least not in my age bracket. And younger men are not in the scope of my dating interest, so the dating pool prospects are pretty limited for me.

I guess the older we get, the more baggage we bring along with us, like it or not. But a 50 year old man's expectation of a 20 or 30 - something figure with the intellect of a 50 - something is unrealistic. They appear to be less "forgiving" than women do of them at our age. Most of them are starting over after a divorce/bad relationship. Also, the degree of inflexibility I've encountered meeting people my age is disheartening, to say the least. Seems like if I don't "bend" to meet someone else's expectations, then I'm destined to be alone. I have learned to be ok with it. I've got a good job, self-sufficient, own my own house and have a certain degree of intellect, although my sanity could become an issue. I suppose that I am also not too hard on the eyes since people have said as much.

Several of my relationships in the past have been damaged/destroyed by online dating. It's so easy to create a profile and "troll" while you're in a relationship with someone else. To catch someone that you're living with on a dating website is a feeling that is indescribable. Betrayal, anger, sadness....

Suffice it to say that I am not looking, but if someone came along and there was mutual compatibility, I'd be open to it.

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