AudSabres wrote:
MM and I spent the whole day watching horror flicks, killing zombies in left 4 dead 2 in our PJ's. Then, we had an amazing steak dinner; all prepared by her and shared a bottle of wine, then some beers!
I've never been a fan of this day because of its modern meaning. The whole thing is nothing but an overpriced, overrated attempt to make guys and girls squirm and search frantically for a gift for their loved one that will show up someone else’s' attempt at gifting something to their special someone. Why set aside one day out of the year to tell someone you love them? I think it's a slap in the face to the single people out there and puts way too much pressure on those who are in a relationship to outdo others in terms of their gifts.
Last year, I wrote a note on facebook, describing that I was officially canceling what I now refer to as, "VD-Day" and I still believe in the words which I dedicated to all the singles last year, to this day.
Here's a little excerpt from that note:
"Am I bitter for being alone? Actually I'm quite content. It's how the lovebirds go out of their way on one day out of 365 (366 for leap years) to exploit the fact that they are involved in what many pretend is an amazing relationship. Guys, here's a tip... In most cases, your woman is going to use this day as means to see how creative your pathetic mind really is. Will you do the mindless zombie thing and buy her a box of candy and a dozen roses? In some cases, she'll shove the candy down your throat causing you to choke on them and then toss the flowers on your fucking grave after she kills you. Or, will you go out and buy the big diamond she's always wanted, putting your bank account into the negatives more than it already is? Then you have to work overtime at the job you're really not good at just to pay for the fucking thing, meaning you're not at home 3/4 of the time and when you do finally come home, you're bashed for never being there! And that is when you find out she's been sleeping with the pool boy, Edwardo, to satisfy her needs since you're never there.
Now women, truth be told. Most of the male population is a bunch of fucking dogs. Sorry fellas, I'm calling you out here too. If he gives you this huge gift and says the usual B.S. "You're my everything, I only want you in my life...I love you so much..." Chances are he's googled that crock of horseshit and managed to think up a small portion of his own lines he hasn't already used on another woman (Note: arrangement of words can be taken into consideration here) and chicken scratched that shit into a card to lead off the diamond you're going to be receiving because ultimately, most men will go to any lengths just to get laid. Regardless of how much it costs or what gift is purchased. So you know right away if he opens up a box and it has 14 Kt's in it, chances are he wants you to cure his case of blue balls ASAP. No matter what the gift, he's looking to get his. I say don't fucking give in. Tell him to yank his own crank and understand you're not a glorified hooker.
I ask you (If you've read this far), have we as a society grown so materialistic that we need to go in debt in order to show someone you give a fuck about them? Well I say fuck you and your blue canoe, Ragu. Just like Christmas, the idea of showing someone you give a damn has been exploited and commercialized yet again. Why? Because we fucking allowed it.
So when you're standing in line buying that last minute huge ass item (and the cashier knows you either fucked up big time or are scrambling for something last minute...or both) in hopes you can rub it into someone else's face that you made the better purchase, or that the thong/bra set you're going to wear for Bob is better than your friends nipple tassels, ask yourself this question.
With the idea of what this day stands for today... What's Love Got to do with it?!”
On that note, I hope everyone had a great day yesterday. If it was with family, girlfriends/wives husbands/boyfriends, friends or your hands and some lube
Wow. You said a mouthful.
Very insightful (albeit a bit cynical)
post.
I, too, agree about the commercial aspect and the pressure and expectations associated with this particular day.
I think that some use it as a measure/barometer of the current state of their relationship. It's not about an extravagant gift, or some over-the-top gesture; it's about honoring that special someone in your life in some small, thoughtful way. For me, the most thoughtful gift is your time and doing something together. A walk, low-key dinner, whatever....as long as it's something both enjoy.
I agree, expressing your love for another should be that way the rest of the year, too. It's too easy for people to fall into a rut and take one another for granted. I guess that may be why some have greater expectations for this day.
I applaud your comment about the "glorified whore" concept. It doesn't necessarily take a holiday such as Valentine's Day to be treated that way; but it does tend to be magnified because it is touted as a big deal. Nothing worse than feeling like a masturbatory aid in exchange for a little attention or a gift.
Well, for better or worse, we all survived it. Thanks, everyone for taking the time to write/respond to the poll.
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